Artist: Amy Hagemeier
As a society, we encourage girls and women to be emotionally accessible, and in touch with their feelings; we say that it’s an innately feminine trait. We say it, that is, until they have feelings that make us uncomfortable, at which point we recast them as melodramatic harpies, shrieking banshees, and basket cases
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| — | Tori Amos (via queerintersectional) |
Being a sexual abuse survivor does not make me any less of a women, do not treat me like a broken toy.
Boundaries and Consent
Q: Someone touched me in a way I was really uncomfortable with. Am I just overreacting?
A: You are not overreacting, anytime anyone touches you without your permission they are in the wrong. A lot of people go through having their space invaded to the point of crossing boundaries. I know I have. It’s definitely part of rape culture where many people think it’s okay to do that and okay to touch us without our permission. It’s one of the many things we need to teach our children, that it is never okay to touch a person without their outright permission.
Q: How do I ask about consent in a sexy way?
A: A good way to make it easier to involve consent (and learning to say what you like) during sex is to play a game where you are supposed to tell your boyfriend what you want him to do. (i.e. give me a kiss, lick my neck etc) and he then agrees to it. Or you could play “lover may I?” having one or the other asking “lover may I?” and the other agreeing to every move. Besides games, good ways of asking consent is saying “I want you to do this” or “I want to do this” or asking “What do you want me to do to you?” or “What do you like?”. Even just saying “Hey, can I go down on you?” whispered in a lover’s ear while you stroke their stomach can be really sensual. It’s all in the way you ask.
Q: Is rape funny?
A: No.
Q: How do I consent if I’m nonverbal/how does my partner consent if they are non verbal?
A: FYAlternatives as some great posts on nonverbal consent. There may be other times when verbal consent may be limited, like in BDSM practices where one partner can’t speak. In these cases you can develop safe signs.
Q: How do I flirt without invading any one’s space and making them feel harassed?
Q: Why is consent so important?
A: Here’s why.
Updated my boundaries and consent section!
Let me know if I need to add anything!
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malditafeminista:
THIS is why it’s neccessary to out these sons of bitches…because even when we do what the law suggests they still make out scratch free and leave us in shambles…
YOU SEE THOSE TWO SMALL BLACK DOTS..THOSE ARE THE FALSELY ACCUSED IN COMPARISON TO THE GUILTY SONS OF BASTARDS [NOT BITCHES] WHO WALK FREE.
So you rape apologists can miss me with this “what about the men who might be falsely named” b.s because out of all of those submissions I bet thus far NONE have been false… per the graphic that’s about 2 out of 1000.
TWO OUT OF ONE THOUSAND ARE FALSE.
Go fuck yourselves apologists.
This really puts things in perspective](http://24.media.tumblr.com/c5904ef556bb2b31c0af21c832b359f0/tumblr_mg8eq7mwjB1rejcgao1_500.jpg)
THIS is why it’s neccessary to out these sons of bitches…because even when we do what the law suggests they still make out scratch free and leave us in shambles…
YOU SEE THOSE TWO SMALL BLACK DOTS..THOSE ARE THE FALSELY ACCUSED IN COMPARISON TO THE GUILTY SONS OF BASTARDS [NOT BITCHES] WHO WALK FREE.
So you rape apologists can miss me with this “what about the men who might be falsely named” b.s because out of all of those submissions I bet thus far NONE have been false… per the graphic that’s
about2 out of 1000.
TWO OUT OF ONE THOUSAND ARE FALSE.
Go fuck yourselves apologists.
This really puts things in perspective
danceswithfaeriesunderthemooon:
‘Every rape survivor needs compassion, not detention’ - young girl holding a sign at SlutWalk London 2012.
STILL MY FAVOURITE PICTURE FROM A PROTEST EVER
yes london
The soul always knows what to do to heal itself. The challenge is to silence the mind.
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| — | Caroline Myss (via onlinecounsellingcollege) |
